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That way, no matter what happened, at least I’d get some good food out of it! With one guy, I was so scared to end things that I just let it drag on for a month. The biggest difference between drunk and sober dating was that now I never kissed or slept with a guy unless I wanted to.
I dated about 10 guys in my first six months, some for up to a few weeks. I got to Step Four—which involves writing out an inventory of your past behavior, including sexual behavior.
Secretly, I was hoping for a nerdy dude who shared my love of comic books and dessert—but I kept details to myself. And he drank “Not At All.” On a freezing January night, I went to one of my regular AA meetings in Brooklyn.
Shortly after graduating college, six months sober, I spotted an OKCupid profile that blew me away. Afterwards, I met Joe for our first date at a diner just down the street.
Back when I’d lost my actual virginity, I had manipulated a guy into sleeping with me after a drunken debacle the week before. But with Steve, I didn’t feel any need to manipulate him. But I didn’t break down and cry and try to win him back. I didn’t tell my sponsor about my sexual activity, at first. But at about six months sober, I got to Step Four—which involves writing out an inventory of your past behavior, including sexual behavior.