Giving up dating geeks
I have sneaked in the house and gone up to what used to be our bedroom and found my mother has moved all her clothes into the wardrobe and taken what I had left out and I have even seen a tube of lube on the bedside table (my mother is post menopausal).Seeing that made me hate her more than you can believe.Have you had a “Hey, this isn’t really working” conversation before now? Would you have described yourself as “happily married” before you saw them together? Whatever the answers are, taking your mom on a date to your favorite local moving her shit into your house (which is still your house…I think? I REPEAT: ALL IS NOT WELL.” It’s nice that you are thinking about the possibility of forgiveness for your husband (after you break them up somehow, of course), but my read on this situation is that there is no going back to any kind of happy equilibrium in these relationships.
I am drawn to men who are starkly different than my husband, who is an intellectual, moderate in terms of his vices and has a disdain for the type of men who spend every evening in a pub.
I have a drinking problem but it is not a problem I feel any need to resolve and I am drawn to men who are also drinkers like me.
I can forgive my husband but I could never forgive her and I can’t tolerate the fact that they are together. The references to the lube and the “perfect body”…this can’t be real.
And then I read it again and thought, well, this person sounds lonely as fuck and she had the guts to tell some judgy asshole strangers her story and if it’s real OH MY GOD her HUSBAND and her MOM are THE WORST PEOPLE and maybe we can help validate THAT if nothing else.
I have had a string of long-term affairs and short-term flings.